Is Balance a Waste of Time?

It's okay to say no. It's okay to drop some lemons. Everyone will survive.


Balance is a tricky subject. We have careers, partners, children, family commitments, charity work, classes, hobbies, worship time—plus, a desire to improve our health. How can you possibly balance so many things?

I’m going to let you in on a little secret that I've discovered: You can’t.

Balance is a myth.

I think “harmony” is an easier goal than balance.

Harmony means everything co-exists in cooperation. That means some things have to get more time than others, and that's OKAY. But whatever you want to call it —harmony, balance, or “holding all the lemons”— there is a secret to doing more of what you want and less of what you don’t.

Want to hear it?

I need to warn you that although the equation sounds simple, it actually takes some willpower to execute. It requires that you get absolutely clear on what you want in your life, and what you don't.

Ready? Okay, here’s the secret:

  • First ask yourself what isn’t serving you. What is sinking your energy? What doesn’t need to be in your life? What is dragging you down? Keeping you awake at night?
  • Have you identified a few things? Great. Drop 'em. Like, now. Or fix them. Now.
  • Next, ask yourself what you DO want in your life—or in this week or day? What do you want to do with your time? Who do you want to be with? Focus your energy on these things. Anything that doesn’t fit into this larger scheme… pull an Elsa and "Let It Gooooooooooooo"

Ready to dive in and make a few changes? Give these tips a try and see how much more harmonious your life can be. No balance required.

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